Of all the things I have contended with in my life, watching grown adults stalk and harass my children online has been the most difficult to deal with, not the least because there is really nothing I can do. When I started writing the blog in 2012, there were few other voices questioning the dominant narrative. We wanted to change the narrative, and make space in the popular culture for other ideas to emerge, and I think that everyone involved in the whole dark web endeavor has been successful. Our push against the totalitarian and authoritarian dogmatism of leftist and feminist ideology drew zealous and fanatical adherents out to spew poison and bile and none of that particularly bothered me. But I naively assumed I could protect my children.
I can protect my children in real life. That is not the issue. It’s protecting them online, from adults, that is proving to be impossible. How do I counter a group of adult women in Los Angeles who mount a campaign against my teenage daughter participating in a national charity? How do I counter an adult man in Chicago sharing their names with the clear intention of inviting harm? How do I mitigate against adults trying their level best to hurt a ten year old girl? These adults have no arguments to offer against me. No points to make. No counter factuals. No data to share. Only their rage, which does nothing against me, but terrifies children.
And I can do nothing.
And so I surrender.
I am forced to choose between my blog and the safety of my children, and that is no choice. I feel enormously blessed to have shared this journey with you and I have enjoyed our many raucous debates. Many of you I consider personal friends.
I will miss you all.