An unfortunately visaged feminist writing for The Telegraph is mad at bitches who comment on her appearance at work, and still manages to blame men for how other women behave, while not subjecting her own behavior to any scrutiny. It’s kind of impressive, really.
It’s all too easy to casually tell another woman she looks ‘tired’, ‘ill’ or even ‘smart’. And it’s not helpful – especially when it’s linked to the amount of make-up she’s wearing. Women need to stop commenting on each other’s appearances in a working environment; only then will men start to follow suit.
Oh, dear, Radhika. Are you really unaware that you’re rather ugly? I don’t write that to make you feel bad. It’s just a fact. The vast majority of men have no interest in you of any kind, and the only interest they have in whether you wear make-up is that you’re slightly less offensive to look at with makeup on.
That’s not sexist. It’s just life. Unattractive women at least have the option of makeup! Unattractive men can’t hide behind lipstick and bronzing powder.
Other women are commenting on your appearance because they hate you, but they can’t call you an ugly bitch to your face. If they liked you, they wouldn’t care. Relationships between women almost always come down to sexual competition. Few women would consider you a threat as a sexual competitor. I’m sorry, but it’s true. Your writing oozes insecurity over your appearance, which is understandable. Other women know you’re insecure, so that is where they focus their attack. But they’re commenting because they don’t like you.
No one hates women quite like other women.
Radhika goes on in her column to assert that “employers now expect women to wear make-up in order to seem ‘smart’ and ‘professional’”, but she offers no proof for this. Hospitals have huge female staff numbers, a vested interest in delivering highly professional services and yet, I somehow doubt women are required to wear makeup in the OR. Certain professions have grooming standards that apply to both men and women. I don’t wear heels. I would not take a job that required me to wear heels. Bitching and moaning over grooming standards is like taking a job at Hooters, then complaining that you have to wear a bra. Lots of jobs dictate whether men can have facial hair, piercings, visible tattoos, and they dictate what clothing men are allowed to wear. Hint: men’s dress codes are usually way stricter than women’s.
Radhika has a little pout over a performance review that commented on women looking ‘smart’ and ‘well-presented’, insisting that such comments would never be directed at men. That’s because men in professional environments don’t generally get the opportunity to come across as frivolous, stupid or poorly put together. There are only so many things you can do with a suit and tie. She then goes on to moan that she prefers a makeup free existence, but feels she has to put some on when she’s going in to the office so that she appears ‘smarter’. She’s British, so she’s using smart in the sense of fashionable, neat, well-dressed, and not in the intelligence sense.
And if she doesn’t? Then she gets passive aggressive comments from other women that she looks ‘tired’. Radhika ends by writing “[i]t’s about time we recognised that professionalism has nothing to do with how attractive you look – and everything to do with the way you behave. And there’s no high heel or nail varnish on Earth that can help with that.’
Honey, that time is already here. Women make shitty comments about your appearance because they hate you. That’s likely based on how you behave. Your own advice? You should take it.
Behave better. You’ll likely find no one gives a shit if you wear makeup to work or not. You’re a journalist.
And not a very good one.
Lots of love,