We all have that friend: the beautiful, intelligent, driven woman who—like Katherine Heigl in every rom-com—can’t find a decent date. Every guy she goes out with is an asshole; she consistently dates “below” her league, and she’s on the verge of giving up on a committed relationship altogether.
Oh, do we now? I don’t have ‘that friend’, possibly because I’m not friends with greedy, rapacious, snotty cunts so full of themselves, they think majoring in fashion merchandising makes them ‘intelligent’. No really. Check this bitch out:
‘Educated’ here clearly means ‘college educated’, as if college education is the only kind of education you can get. Hey, bitch, if you’re so educated and intelligent, how about you answer these questions every working-class, stupid, uneducated, unintelligent HVAC technician has to answer to be certified:
Yeah, those HVAC guys are retards. And they probably don’t make any money, either. Definitely turn your nose up at those dudes. They didn’t even try to get into Harvard! And that is just so, so, so sad for women. It’s so unfair.
What can be done to help these poor women? The obvious solution is a no-go.
I mean, lol! We’ve already established that working class men are morons who can’t match the intelligence of your average women’s studies major. To be fair to this little dipshit, there actually is a positive correlation between college education and intelligence, but generally only for men:
Here’s the most interesting part of the entire article, IMO:
Does this mean that when colleges were dominated by men, it was easier for college educated women to get married and stay married? Not necessarily, because men didn’t automatically value a college education in their partners. Jon Birger, the man being interviewed discusses what The Economist calls assortative mating – the tendency to marry someone of equal social and educational status, but this trend is very recent. Here is a shortened list of what a ‘perfect housewife’ does from a Home Economics textbook published in the 1950s:
- Have dinner ready
- Be cheerful
- Keep the house tidy
- Take care of the children
- Keep the noise down
- Check your whining and complaining
- Let him relax when he gets home
- Be a source of comfort, not another problem
This pretty much describes my life and what I do all day, except for the ‘keep the noise down’ part – we’re pretty noisy around here, and it’s not unusual for my husband to walk in the door to a raging Nerf war with 10 kids from the neighborhood. If he minds, he’s never said so!
All the things a good wife did in the 1950s are still all the things good wives do today, with one big exception: cooking. My husband takes zero interest in cooking, but the previous owners knocked the wall between the kitchen and dining room out, and the stove is installed in an island that faces the dining room, so he is always with me when I’m cooking, even though he doesn’t actually do any of the cooking. I would say at least half of all the men I know are actively interested in cooking, and make the evening meal. I have 9 people coming for Thanksgiving dinner, plus the five of us, and a good friend of ours will be making the mashed potatoes at his house and then donning an apron and helping me with the rest of the cooking.
Obviously, being a good wife didn’t require a college education, and it still doesn’t. It’s just that few women are interested in being good wives, and men have had to change their requirements. If you’re not going to get a wife who does all those things, you’ll need a wife who can earn an income, so you can pay some other woman to do them for you. It’s ironic, that in order to avoid the terrible oppression of cooking and serving food, cleaning and taking care of a home and children, taking care of elderly or sick relatives, and keeping things organized, women flooded into the labor market, where they mostly serve food, clean up after other people, take care of children, the elderly and the sick and keep things organized for the men who do the actual work. Sorry, feminists. It’s still mostly women doing all that work, only now they’re doing it for strangers in exchange for money instead of for their own families in exchange for love.
So, college campuses are not axiomatically good hunting grounds for a wife, most women appear to have little interest in being a good wife, and instead have flocked to college campuses, leading to a wildly skewed gender ratio, leading to…. men who don’t need to commit to women, because the sex is freely given and the women will likely make shit wives anyways. Given that the price of divorce is so high for men, it’s little wonder men are increasingly refusing to get on board, leaving all these ‘great single women’ on the shelf. I wonder how enthusiastically men would ‘cast aside amazing women’ if those amazing women were interested in being amazing wives, instead of petulant sluts, bitter that no one wants to marry them? The #NoHymenNoDiamond movement on social media has feminists screaming in outrage, but it hits right at the heart of this phenomenon: what exactly do you have to offer men, ladies?
I suspect a large number of men tweeting #NoHymenNoDiamond are not literally looking for a virgin bride, but they are highlighting the fact that there is little incentive for them to ‘put a ring on it’. The benefits of marriage largely accrue to women, and modern women seem to have no sense that they might be under some obligations once they slide that ring on. I think Dean Esmay sums it up nicely:
In actual fact, women don’t owe men anything they don’t owe other people as a matter of common decency and courtesy, but when they want something from men (like a commitment to marriage and family), they need to offer men something in return. Virginity seems like a pretty stupid thing to offer, if you ask me. Both women and men should have the number of sexual experiences they genuinely want to have. If that number is zero, and you only ever want to have sex with your husband or wife, that’s fine. If you genuinely want to have sex with a hundred men or a hundred women, that’s fine too, although not very hygienic, and it certainly wouldn’t appeal to me, personally. For me, the important point is that you are indulging in experiences you genuinely want, and not doing it because someone told you having a great number of sex partners is empowering or what you should do.
So what should women offer men in exchange for marriage and commitment?
Easy. They had it right in the 1950s. If you want to be a wife, you need to be a good wife. Whether you are working or not, went to college or not, want children or not, marriage is actually pretty easy. You make the other person’s happiness and comfort more important than your own. When both people make the other person’s happiness the most important thing, well, that’s when you have a great marriage.
Men are rejecting marriage and family and commitment with college-educated women because, quite frankly, those women suck. Marriage remains a risky proposition for men, even in the best circumstances, but I wonder how many more men would be willing to consider it if they were involved with a woman who wanted more than an expensive, flashy ring, a Magic Princess Day in a Big Fluffy Dress, and access to his resources. How many more men would consider marriage, if they knew they were with a woman who wanted more than just to be a wife.
What if she wanted to be a good wife?
You’re not likely to find a woman like that on a college campus. Yet another reason to let the ratios skew even further. Head to HVAC school and rest assured, those college women would never even consider dating you.
Those ladies are just too intelligent for that.
Lots of love,