My car was stolen last night – #ListenAndBelieve

13 Dec

[Edited to add: as many readers have pointed out, it’s not 6.1/100 but 6.1/1000 – 0.61% is the correct number]

[Edited to add: I realize there may be some factual discrepancies in my account of the car theft. These discrepancies are not important, because the goal here is to launch an important conversation about the fact that car theft happens and it is devastating to victims :P]



So my car was stolen last night. It’s a 2015 BMW GLK 250 BlueTEC Avantgarde SUV worth $50K. Luckily I have insurance which will pay out most of the value of that car. Annoying to lose such a nice vehicle, but oh well. That’s what insurance is for, right?



I reported the incident to police and was rather distressed and surprised by their response. Callous does not even begin to describe their reaction. They demanded the following information from me:


  • Proof of ownership
  • Proof of registration
  • Proof of insurance
  • My driver’s license


Well that’s bullshit!


My car was stolen! $50K just driven away in the night! I have been robbed and these cold, indifferent, so-called “law enforcement” people basically just laughed in my face and treated me like a liar when I could provide none of the above requested proofs. Why is it my job to prove this happened? It’s their JOB to catch car thieves! And don’t tell me car theft doesn’t happen. We know it happens! It happens all the time.


Let’s pause for a moment here and consider the two basic forms of reasoning we as humans have at our disposal: deductive and inductive.




Deductive reasoning is the process of reasoning from one premise to another to reach a logically certain conclusion. It’s Sherlock Holmes standing over a dead body, collecting clues (premises) and reasoning through them to find the culprit. Holmes need not question whether a crime occurred – he’s standing over a man with a knife in his back, so obviously it did*. It’s just a matter of sorting through the premises, finding the valid ones and reaching the inescapable conclusion.


Inductive reasoning is the other way around. You make a broad generalization about something and then look for premises that support that generalization. The conclusion may or may not be logically certain, but relies instead on the preponderance of evidence. If almost all premises support the generalization, the generalization is thought to be true until additional information or evidence surfaces. One of the most common forms of inductive reasoning is reasoning by analogy. Analogic reasoning is absolutely fundamental to philosophical (metaphor), scientific (models and hypotheses) and legal (precedents) reasoning and has been since antiquity.


Let’s keep this in mind as we carry on.


So I reported that my car had been stolen and was dismissed out of hand by law enforcement officers when I could provide no evidence that the car even existed, let alone that the car was mine and had been stolen. This is apparently standard police procedure. When a crime is reported, the first thing the officers must do is confirm that a crime actually occurred.


When I was unable to provide evidence that the car existed, my complaint was filed in the circular bin. Indeed, I was even cautioned by the police that the fact I had no evidence of ownership and registration and that I don’t even have a driver’s license were the only things protecting me from an accusation of attempted insurance fraud.


Well, I never.


Obviously I am making this up. I don’t drive, don’t have a car, sure as hell do not have $50K to throw away on a BMW and wouldn’t do so even if I had the money. The point of course is to use the analogy to talk about rape, and the utter nonsense that is #ListenAndBelieve.


Cue the social justice warriors and feminists shrieking “women are not cars and you are sick evil scum to even compare them blah blah blah outrage outrage outrage….”


This kind of “counter-argument”, and I use the term loosely because it barely meets the standard of what constitutes a legitimate argument, is a form of red herring called a “banal objection”.  Also called “trivial objections”, the purpose is to divert the conversation away from the topic at hand, which is: should claims that a crime has been committed be taken at face value?


Let’s talk for a moment about incentives. The incentives to lie about stolen property, to commit arson, to commit any kind of fraud are obvious. If a person can simply claim that valuable property has been stolen, and is under no imperative to provide evidence for that, all the insurance companies in the world would immediately be shuttered. The incentives to commit fraud would make insurance unviable, and since insurance plays a vital role in the economy, we do not permit fraudulent claims and investigate reports of stolen property thoroughly.


Is rape a form of fraud?




I think any sane person can see that rape easily fits the definition of fraud and reasoning by analogy is a perfectly legitimate course of action. Reasoning by analogy, if property fraud requires evidence that the property existed, it belonged to you, it was unlawfully accessed and a crime investigation will only commence once that evidence has been supplied, why should rape accusations be any different?


Keep in mind we are not talking about the presumption of innocence here. The accused has not even entered the discussion. We are simply attempting to verify that a crime occurred, just as we would for any other fraud accusation.


Proof that property existed – if a person is reporting their own rape, this standard is met easily. If a person is reporting another person’s rape, the police need to confirm that person exists, and agrees that they were raped.


Proof that the property belonged to you – no brainer, since we all agree heartily that one’s body belongs to oneself


Proof that the property was unlawfully accessed –  now we are into the tricky territory. Unlawful access in the case of rape means unwanted, coerced or forced sex. The first thing the police need to do is establish that a sexual relationship existed. This is not accusing the victim of lying, it is simply establishing that the opportunity for unlawful access occurred. You need to be able to prove sex happened before the investigation can even move forward. This is where incentives come in and the police are perfectly correct in examining what the motives for the claim might be. Still not victim-blaming. If you are going through a divorce, engaging in infidelity, just failed your exams, any number of reasons, the police have an obligation and a duty to investigate ulterior motives before dragging a potentially innocent person through the mud.


Failing to meet these three standards is a good indication that no investigation is warranted, and may even lead to a caution against malicious filing of reports, just as falsely reporting a vehicle stolen for the purposes of insurance fraud can lead to a caution.


We have made it far too easy for women to cry rape in our culture, particularly on college campuses. The most recent information from the Department of Justice demonstrates that college women are the least likely to be raped, and the 1 in 5 oft cited number is nowhere near correct. 20% turns out to 6.1% – a far cry from the supposed “rape epidemic” gripping the nation’s campuses.


This whole idea that we should #ListenAndBelieve, quite frankly, is nothing more than a huge fraud perpetuated by feminists on the rest of us. It behooves us to resist this kind of misandric, cult of victimhood nonsense and demand that rape accusations be investigated the same way all claims of fraud are investigated: impartially, objectively, and in need of supporting evidence.


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Lots of love,




*Now don’t get nit-picky with me. It might have been an elaborate hoax whereby the man committed suicide by stabbing himself in the back so his family could collect life insurance but one way or another, a crime was committed. Fraud instead of murder.






Reposting this because I love it! How To Pick A Wife

12 Dec


I love it when this happens:  some single guy friend of Mr.JudgyBitch, hungry for some family time, ends up sitting at our dining room table, a plate of something warm and delicious in front of him, children cavorting silly and funny all around, a cat curled up under his feet and a glass of something fortifying at hand.  He looks around, sighs, and says, “JudgyBitch, why aren’t there more of you?”


The truth is there ARE lots of women like me:  women who value home and family more than cash and credit in their own names.  Women who like being First Officer and are happy to have a Captain who takes the main responsibility for the crew.  Women who make other people’s happiness their own, and who don’t have to TRY to do that, it’s just how they are.


The trick is to be able to recognize those women when you meet them, and to see the red flags that tell you when you’re going down the wrong track. So here is JudgyBitch’s advice for single men on how to find a wife.



How much does she weigh?

People come in all different shapes and sizes, and there is no wrong or right shape.  There’s only what you prefer, and you are entitled to your preference.  Start with that.  Do NOT marry someone you do NOT find physically attractive.  It will not get better.  It will get worse, and that’s a terrible position to be in – married to someone you don’t fancy.  Having said that, you need to ask IS HER WEIGHT STABLE?  Whether you prefer the softly rounded or the slender, the athletic or the sturdy, a stable weight goes hand in hand with a stable mind. Look at pictures of her over time.  Wildly fluctuating weight is a sign of mental disturbance, and that is just what you do NOT want.


How much does she care about her clothes?


Again, it doesn’t matter what your preference, fashion-wise is.  A pretty country dress, blue jeans and t-shirt, yoga pants or metropolitan chic.  WHAT she wears doesn’t matter, but how much she CARES certainly does.  First of all, it can cost a shitload of money to keep a fashion conscious girl in circulation.  That is NOT what you want to spend your family’s money on.  Second, someone who invests a lot of time thinking about herself and what she looks like is not likely to be spending a lot of time thinking about YOU.  And fuck that right there. Check out her closets.  Are they stuffed to the seams with clothes and shoes and boots and accessories?  Yes?  Pass on her.  Not what you want.



Does she care if you are hungry?


Young women today have very few domestic skills, a sad result of growing up with mothers who preferred cubicles and frozen pizza to a kitchen and fresh bread.  Those skills can be learned, however, and all it takes is practice and desire.  Don’t panic if your lady friend cannot boil water or make the proverbial sandwich.  She can learn how to do those things.  What she CAN’T do is learn how to care.  She does or she doesn’t.  A woman who will bring you take-out, or heat soup from a can or pick up some bread and cheese from the bakery because YOU are hungry is on the right path.  It’s all about attitude.  Wanting to go out for dinner because SHE wants to is very different from wanting to go get dinner because YOU have had a long shitty day and she’s knows your favourite Mexican restaurant is just what you need.  Caring about you starts with caring about what and when you eat.  It’s really that simple.


Does she have a loving family and close friends?


Women who DON’T have these things should not be off the table automatically, because no one chooses their family, but a woman without a family or friends should be dealt with very cautiously.  There might be a good reason she has no friends.  Beware of women who say things like “I don’t like hanging out with women.  They’re so bitchy/catty/dramatic/blah blah.  I prefer the company of men.”  That’s a huge red flag right there.  There are plenty of women I hate and would not voluntarily spend one second with, but I also have a group of like-minded ladies who walk through life with me and I LOVE them to pieces.  A woman who prefers the company of men over all women has a problem with lack of male attention.  She probably grew up in a single parent household, and it’s unlikely she is going to be satisfied with just YOUR attention.  Give her a miss.


Does she have an inner life?


A woman with an inner life does things that allow her to contemplate the world from someone else’s perspective. Whether that involves reading or analyzing baseball games or volunteering at the animal shelter, it means she has some capacity to consider the needs of others.  There’s a clue there, dudes.  If you’re actively looking for women who read/analyze/volunteer, you should spend some time at the bookstore/arena/shelter. Become a familiar face and you might find a willing conversational partner and then take it from there.



Does she like children?


That’s a deal breaker.  A woman who doesn’t like children is a woman who doesn’t like vulnerability, chaos, responsibility, obligation, patience or cheer.  Lots of women will say “oh, I would love my OWN children, I just can’t stand other people’s children.”  That is a woman who considers children personal property and you are in for a hot mess of hurt and a lifetime of child support if you fall for one of those ladies.  The slightest hint of not liking children should send you running for the hills.  The failure to see children everywhere as little people deserving of love and guidance and patience and tolerance is fatal flaw.  Run, lads!


Does she want a big wedding?


In certain cultures, big weddings are an expectation and par for the course. JudgyBitch’s youngest brother UPSGuy, married into a huge Italian family, and the wedding was insane, but necessary.  Mrs.UPSGuy would have been happy to elope, but her 285 cousins would have killed her.  So a big wedding it was, but in general, the desire for a big wedding is a hint that you have found a Princess, and not in a good way.  A Princess is an entitled narcissist who thinks everything and everyone should be about HER and her Big Day!  You are an accessory and not much more. That’s not a good thing.  Princesses expect life to treat them royally simply by virtue of being born and they have little concept of what their duties and responsibilities are in relation to the kingdom.  Ditch the Princess and look for a Queen.  A Queen is different.  She understands that she has obligations and that her privilege comes with a price, which she is more than willing to pay.  A Princess will see you as a Daddy, who ought to take care of her and indulge her every whim.  A Queen knows you are the King, and commands alongside you.


A word about the dress, though.  The Dress lives in every woman’s imagination and it will cost a lot for something that only gets worn once (although I wear mine every anniversary).  But there is a LOT and then A WHOLE FUCKING LOT.  A big creamy taffeta and silk confection can be had for a couple hundred dollars and that is a lot of money, but if you can afford it, it will melt her heart and make her feel like she is living in a dream.  With you.



Does she wear sensible shoes?


Ok, this one is a personal peeve.  I just think a girl in sensible shoes has her head on straight and knows that sometimes life will throw you a curveball and you need have your feet on the ground, solidly and be ready to catch or get the hell out of the way.  Sensible shoes doesn’t mean ugly shoes.  It means practical, comfortable and affordable. Just what your wife should be.


So there you have it.  What to look for in a wife.  Where to find her?  Hell if I know.  But she’s out there.  Don’t settle for anything less.


Lots of love,



Yes, women lie about rape and some of the reasons are awful

10 Dec

rape lies


I will unabashedly confess that doing the research for this piece left me with my mouth hanging open. Genuinely shocked at some of the reasons and how heartless some women are.

The friends she had left behind were angry with her and a brawl broke out among the women, who punched and bit one another. When a friend demanded to know if the men had raped Peguero, she said that they had. The bruises she had sustained in the fight with her friends were accepted as evidence of rape, and one man spent four years in jail on the charge.

#ListenAndBelieve my ass.


More like don’t be naive.






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