Police in Australia are trying to address the issue of domestic violence, and to offer services fairly to both men and women.
You hear her screaming.
The windows breaking.
You see the bruises.
The look of fear in the children’s eyes.
The police are called.
But don’t assume you know how this story ends. Because she is the one who is arrested. And he is the innocent victim. He is the one living in fear. Domestic violence does not discriminate.
Last year, 1 in every 5 domestic violence assaults that NSW Police responded to involving intimate partners were for male victims.
The NSW Police Force has zero tolerance for domestic violence. You make the call – we’ll make it stop.
I like this, and I think it’s a great start. Of course, feminists in Australia are howling all over Facebook – they absolutely despise the idea that any compassion or attention should go towards men at all, because this severely impedes the ‘men are evil oppressors who hate women’ narrative that makes feminism work.
Reading through the comments, this one struck me as worthy of commentary: if a girl can throw a punch, she can take one.
Like a broken clock that is right twice a day, feminists are correct to assert that when it comes to violence, men hitting women is generally not the same thing as women hitting men. There is an asymmetry to the violence that can’t simply be chatted or screeched away.
Anyone with any training in violence understands pretty quickly that weapons are great equalizers, but even a Bowie knife won’t eradicate the asymmetry completely. We did some work with Bowie knives in knife class yesterday, and the first tactic we learned, on the advice of our instructor, who has a black belt in edged weapons, was if you see a Bowie knife, run like a motherfucker.
Bowie knives are hacking instruments. Think Jason in the Halloween series. Or whatever. I hate horror films. That scary guy with the really big knife. Muslims on the London Bridge. That kind of thing. They are nasty pieces of steel to deal with, and I would prefer to never deal with them at all, but if I had to – if anyone had to – please tell me who you’d rather see coming at you: a man or a woman?
Even a gun. From twenty feet away, okay fine, it doesn’t matter if it’s a man or woman holding the gun, but from three feet and you’re now going to try a disarm? Your opponent matters a lot.
This video never gets old for me. Watch her feet.
We can’t talk about domestic violence if we are not going to talk about this. This chick does not stand a chance, and I’ll bet she can throw a nice punch.
But she can’t take one.
She just can’t. She cannot take a punch, she cannot take a body slam, she cannot take this man. And she is far from unique.
With training and coaching, this Captain can’t take a man, and she has a black belt!
Women soliders, especially soldiers, know women can’t fight men.
These are professional practitioners of violence – if they can’t take a punch, what woman can?
So what do we do? Let’s be clear here: I am by no means arguing that women can’t hurt men. This is demonstrably false. I am a fit, strong, trained woman, and if I punch you, I guarantee you, it will hurt. None of that means I can take a punch from a man. A teenage boy is likely to knock me flat out. That’s just reality. I have to train to make sure a full hit never lands on me, and I need superior technique to make sure my own strikes are effective.
When feminists insist that it’s different when women hit men and men’s violence is so much more serious, they are correct, but only in a physical sense. Legally, if men and women are equal, then domestic violence is pretty simple.
Are you equal, ladies, or are you not?
We know my opinion here: women are not equal and it’s a dangerous and destructive fiction to pretend they are, but if we are going to embrace the doctrine of equality, then we are need to be prepared for campaigns like the Australian one for domestic violence. These kinds of responses may be amusing, but they don’t exactly help.
What would help? The rule I teach my own children is simple: you don’t hit first, but you do hit back.
We should let men hit back.
That would be the end of women hitting men pretty quickly, I think.
Equality leaves a mark.
Lot of love,