If feminist media is anything to go by, the state of the world for women in the West has never been worse! Under constant threat of misogynist violence, we innocent, delicate creatures must daily run the gauntlet of scourges like manspreading, mansplaining, manbreathing and manslamming. Why, I could walk out my door right now, get on public transit, and be assaulted by men sitting comfortably! My own personal experiences with misogyny allow me to relate deeply to victims of the Holocaust: they had some trouble on trains, too.
What I, and all women in the West, are desperately in need of is SafeSpace™. Luckily, it turns out there is a space, available to all women, where the risk of violence, assault and sexual harassment is reduced to almost zero, and the protective benefits remain in place as long as one remains in the SafeSpace™ and abides by the rules of that space.
It’s called heterosexual marriage.
Yes, ladies, heterosexual marriage is your best protection against misogyny and violence, and if you have children, being married to the father of those children reduces the risk of violence to yourself and your children even further!
Married women are notably safer than their unmarried peers, and girls raised in a home with their married father are markedly less likely to be abused or assaulted than children living without their own father.
I have nothing against homosexual marriage, but for women, especially, being married to another woman increases your risk of being assaulted, by quite a lot. Two women living together are the most violent couples on the planet. Turns out that hell indeed, hath a fury greater than a woman scorned: two women scorned, most likely by each other.
Now, don’t get me wrong. I understand that marriage can be hard. Sometimes husbands are annoying, while we ourselves, of course, never are. Sometimes life is tedious and monotonous and filled with endless days of busy nothings, and it is so much easier to blame our husbands than take up some interesting, fulfilling activity. Sexual passion can wane, and it’s easier to hook up with the hot thug on the corner than rekindle the ardor that once defined your marriage.
But these things, while easy, are not safe. They are not safe for women, and they are not safe for children. Your new boyfriend, you see, really doesn’t have any interest in putting in the time or effort to raise another man’s child, and he will resent you for asking him to. The people who will suffer the most will be your children:
One of the most comprehensive portraits of sexual and physical abuse of girls (and boys) comes from the Fourth National Incidence Study of Child Abuse and Neglect. As the figure above indicates, children are more likely to be abused when they do not live in a home with their married father. What’s more: girls and boys are significantly more likely to be abused when they are living in a cohabiting household with an unrelated adult—usually their mother’s boyfriend. Indeed, the report notes that “only 0.7 per 1,000 children living with two married biological parents were sexually abused, compared to 12.1 per 1,000 children living with a single parent who had an unmarried partner.”
While you fret over men you don’t know and how they sit on the subway, or weep over the shirt a brilliant scientist is wearing, your new boyfriend is the real threat. You were much safer when you were married. Married women are the least likely to be victims of violence from anyone! Marriage protects women from violence at the hands of both intimate partners, and strangers on the street!
Women are also safer in married homes. As the figure above (derived from a recent Department of Justice study) indicates, married women are the least likely to be victimized by an intimate partner. They are also less likely to be the victims of violent crime in general. Overall, another U.S. Department of Justice study found that never-married women are nearly four times more likely to be victims of violent crime, compared to married women. The bottom line is that married women are less likely to be raped, assaulted, or robbed than their unmarried peers.
Some people might say that there are more important things in life than SpaceSpaces™, and I wish those people well. For the rest of us, the bane of male violence represents such a visceral, immediate threat, the solution is obvious: mandatory, and early marriage for all women. The whole world will be a SafeSpace™! And of course, to maintain that safety, the marriages will have to be maintained, too. Married men, you see, tend to ‘settle down after they marry, to be more attentive to the expectations of friends and kin, to be more faithful, and to be more committed to their partners—factors that minimize the risk of violence.’
If women prioritized safety more highly than they currently do, many of the exploitative effects of marriage would disappear, perhaps halting the Sexodus of men refusing to have anything to do with women, families and marriage. The toxicity of masculinity would appear to be tempered by marriage, and thus the wholesale destruction of marriage and family can only have one effect, no? To increase the toxicity of masculinity and the violence of men.
How ironic then that feminism, the social and political movement to assert the supremacy of women equality of the genders, would have the effect of increasing that inequality by incentivizing male violence?
The good news here is that in terms of individual women, SafeSpace™ is available. It’s as simple as “I do”, and as durable as “Happy Anniversary”.
Play-doh, cookies and puppy videos are entirely optional.
Husbands are not.
Lots of love,