It’s interesting to me to see the compassionate response the complete meltdown of male feminist Hugo Schwyzer has elicited from the very men he has repeatedly attacked for their supposed “misogyny” and hatred of women.
Paul Elam at A Voice for Men expresses his sorrow at the mess Hugo has found himself in, and places enormous truth value on Hugo’s claims that he suffers from a fairly serious mental health problem.
To be completely honest, for the first time I actually feel sympathy for this troubled soul. His unchecked sociopathy and childlike lack of governance over his base impulses have led him to a place few gender ideologues will ever go: To simultaneous personal and professional destruction.
William Pierce at The Spearhead has similar thoughts: Hugo has some crazy in his pants, and while Pierce doesn’t demonstrate quite the compassion that Paul does, he takes the prospect of Schwyzer being suicidal quite seriously, although he is quick to place the responsibility right where it belongs. Fair enough. Men do commit suicide at alarmingly high rates that amount to a national healthcare crisis.
Finally, I’d like to point out how topsy-turvy things are when we have male feminists fooling around with porn stars and flying to Ukraine (Lord knows what Hugo was up to there) while manosphere writers cause scandals by settling down in monogamous relationships. It’s a crazy world out there…
Hugo, when you behave in this manner, it isn’t your critics who are causing your problems: it’s you.
I’m not criticizing any man who lines up behind Hugo, or demonstrates empathy or concern. In fact, it’s a pretty terrific example of exactly how NOT cold-hearted and quasi-violent men who question feminist ideology are towards those who routinely attempt to shame them into silence.
When a man is hurting, other men at least pause to consider that someone here is hurting.
That’s a pretty beautiful sentiment.
When it comes to Hugo, I don’t share it. Not for one second. I think Hugo is being a total pussy and missing out on a fantastic opportunity to point out the fucking hypocrisy of the ideology he has thrown himself behind professionally and personally.
What Hugo should be saying is “Step off, bitches. You do the same shit and spin it as liberation and freedom. My personal life is none of your goddamn business”.
Let’s start with the Grande Dame of feminism herself: Simone de Beauvoir. She supposedly had an “open relationship” with Jean Paul Sartre, and she pursued him for her entire life.
Yet in this lifelong relationship of supposed equals, he, it turned out, was far more equal than she was. It was he who engaged in countless affairs, to which she responded on only a few occasions with longer-lasting passions of her own. Between the lines of her fiction and what are in effect six volumes of autobiography, it is also evident that De Beauvoir suffered deeply from jealousy. She wanted to keep the image of a model life intact. There were no children. They never shared a house and their sexual relations were more or less over by the end of the war, though for much of their life and certainly at the last, they saw each other daily.
Is de Beauvoir a pathetic simpleton who can’t get it through her head that her cheating genius will never, ever ruck up with a ring and a dress? Is she mentally ill to allow her life to be dictated by a man who openly sleeps with other women while she seethes at home alone with jealousy? Does anyone question her feminism because she plays the role of the dupe? All her passions governed by one man, whom she cannot have?
Nope. She’s a goddamn hero.
Erica Jong launched sluttiness as a virtue in 1971 with her book Fear of Flying. Married four times, she reveled in the fuck and run mentality.
“The zipless fuck is absolutely pure. It is free of ulterior motives. There is no power game . The man is not “taking” and the woman is not “giving.” No one is attempting to cuckold a husband or humiliate a wife. No one is trying to prove anything or get anything out of anyone. The zipless fuck is the purest thing there is. And it is rarer than the unicorn. And I have never had one.”
The book is one long erotic fantasy of just grabbing and banging whatever guy gets your motor running, and women embraced the challenge rather thoroughly, all the while lauding Jong for her audacity and the liberating effects of zipless, no strings attached fucking.
Eat, Love, Pray? Hell yeah, ladies, ditch your husband and kids and go on a sex and food tour. It’s good for you!
Sex and the City? Ladies, if you are not cultivating greed, avarice, tons of stupidly expensive shoes and bedposts notched to toothpicks, you are doing feminism WRONG!
…to dismiss the programme entirely on the basis of its shortcomings as a feminist text would also be to lose out on what it does deliver. Just to take the most headline-grabbing example, that includes some pretty frank discussion of sex, in which female sexual pleasure and agency is obviously considered a fundamental right, rather than a privilege.
Ladies, you have a fundamental right to be a slut! Okay, I’ll buy it.
Why don’t men have the same fundamental right? Why doesn’t Hugo?
Granted, Hugo has been a bad, bad boy.
Sex with undergrads.
A botched attempt to murder a girlfriend while high on who the hell knows what.
Cheating on his wife with a 27 year old sex worker. NSFW.
All the while railing against older men lusting after younger women.
And cheering for monogamy.
Yeah, so Hugo is a giant fucking hypocrite. This is news? The real question is why, Hugo, do your lady friends get a pass for all their shitty behavior without anyone questioning their ideological commitment or veracity, while you are driven to the brink of suicide by doing the exact same shit?
Riddle me that.
Sex with students? When the teacher is a woman, that’s just all good fun!
“There is still a double standard out there, and it’s almost a joke — ‘Hey, he got hit on by some pretty teacher, what’s he complaining about?’ ” said Ramsland, who has worked with the FBI’s Behavioral Science Unit. “Many don’t see it as much of a crime, and one of the factors that women are getting off easier is some don’t see them as a big of a threat as a man.
Getting a pass for attempted murder? There are too many to even cite, but I love this woman who hired a HITMAN (who was really a police officer) to kill her husband and she got the full out pussy pass. No penalty of any kind.
Women’s justice groups are urging the Supreme Court to stand by a decision that acquitted a Nova Scotia woman for trying to hire a hit man to kill her estranged husband due to years of abuse.
The abuse was so severe the husband was awarded custody of their daughter. Must have been really bad, right? Or complete and utter bullshit.
Older women lusting after younger men? Why, that’s just natural! All that young, virile sperm. And the muscle tone of a young man! Ooh, baby. Bring it on.
As women decline in fertility, their sex drive gets a supercharge in order to maximize their remaining baby-making chances, new research from the University of Texas at Austin reveals. Women in the low-fertility group (ages 27-45) were much more likely to report having more sex, wanting more sex, and having more (and more intense) sexual fantasies. “If you’re trying to maximize your remaining fertility, it makes sense to seek out a younger partner because his sperm is healthier,” says lead researcher Judith Easton.
And monogamy? What’s that? Why should women embrace that dreary old shit? I particularly love this story, plastered everywhere, about how Simon Cowell knocked up his best friend’s wife! She is apparently delighted to have snagged the BabyMama Crown from the grasping hands of the other members of the Aching Ovaries Brigade.
None of these issues, or women, are being called out on feminist media sites. Nothing to see here. La la la la. The top stories on Jezebel?
What to do with your slobbery drunk friends? Fuck ‘em, is basically the advice. Gosh. Lovely to see women lining up in each other’s corners, no?
What to do when your period is so heavy you can’t go to work! Jesus. How heavy does it have to be? What is your job? Shark tamer?
Lindy West, who gets bigger with every new post, had a breastmilk lollipop. Ewww. Do you have suck everything that comes near your mouth, Lindy? Really? No limits at all?
The rest of the stories are just as compelling. Jezebel has lots to say, but very little of it focuses on the issues that Hugo is being excoriated for all over the feminist media.
Hugo, ask yourself why. Why is it that WOMEN get a pass for doing all the same shit you do, or at the very least are met with some pretty deafening silence, while YOU are basically being deprived of your ability to make a living or contribute to society in a way that you want to contribute.
Notice something else, too.
Look carefully at who came to your defence. It wasn’t the pack of fucking bitches who are willing to toss you under the bus for committing the exact same infractions they extol when women are the protagonists.
It was men. And a few men in particular.
You’re a fool, Hugo, if you cave into the demands that you present yourself as mentally damaged, in need of medications and self-flagellation. Your lady friends might forgive you this time, but you will always walk that tightrope of being barely acceptable and you will always be the first one they sacrifice.
You went to the Dark Side in search of cookies, Hugo, not seeming to realize that feminists HATE cookies.
Come into the light. We have cookies, and everything else too!
And please, whatever you do, do not give them the satisfaction of destroying you utterly. They won’t mourn you. Not for one second. Don’t become another tragic statistic. Your crimes were not crimes at all. Being human is not a crime.
Even if you happen to be male and human at the same time.
Lots of love,
[We all survived the surgery, just so you know, and everyone is happy and healthy back at home]